Sexual Reluctance After Childbirth: These Tips Might Help!
I know very well: sexual reluctance after childbirth. While other moms tell me after delivery that they are slowly reliving their stunts in bed, nothing is wrong with me. Nothing.
I feel more like a woman than ever, my body has just created a man. The birth wounds heal and nothing really stands in the way of sex. But the desire just won’t come back.
My partner and I are separating. And so time flies by. I haven’t had sex for 3 whole years. That seems more absurd for my environment than for me. I didn’t feel like I was missing anything. I barely noticed the looks from men, dating is becoming a foreign word. Was there something wrong with me?
I started doing research and realized that postpartum sexual reluctance is a problem for many couples. And yet, hardly anyone talks about it. I want to change that today. So let’s take a closer look at the topic of Sexual Sleeping Beauty.
Sexual reluctance after childbirth is not uncommon
The lack of desire after childbirth is by no means an issue that only affects women. It can also be difficult for men to regain desire after childbirth. In general, experts advise taking a closer look if the lack of desire lasts more than a year. A doctor or therapist can be your first point of contact here.
For many couples, sex is primarily about closeness and intimacy, yet some couples report feeling connected as parents on a whole new level. So sex is never essential in a relationship and you should never approach this topic with pressure. Because thrusting is, let’s be honest, an absolute pleasure killer.
What happens to the body after childbirth?
The regression of the female body is usually complete 6 weeks after birth. But for many women, the sensation of the body changes drastically. Pain from birth injuries isn’t uncommon at first, either, but if it lasts longer, it’s best to get it checked out by a doctor.
The power of postpartum hormones should also not be underestimated. Prolactin, also known as the lactation hormone, slows down the production of sexual pleasure hormones. After birth, the bonding hormone oxytocin kicks in, causing the mother to focus on the baby. It all makes sense, but you don’t want to do mattress sports.