The importance of beautiful moments in your relationship

Many couples who are in the midst of a relationship crisis or who are under a lot of stress in everyday life find it difficult to draw their attention to the beautiful moments of everyday life. But even if everything seems to be going well, it’s worth focusing on connecting moments. It gives us strength and confidence to overcome possible crises. It is a crucial foundation for “difficult” conversations. Our existence is fragile, yes, but our relationship can feel secure when we engage in regular emotional exchanges. And that takes courage! In this article, I would like to show what we can do to prepare well for this exchange, using the example of Heike and Christian (names have been changed) from my practice.

Practice case study

Christian feels that things are going uphill. Maybe it’s because his important client Tom, whom he almost lost during the pandemic, got in touch. For him it is more than a business relationship, almost a friendship.

And he feels that Beate is the one for him. In fact, he only knows now. After almost 15 years! He proposed again, her way, and Beate took him back, albeit a little hesitantly! This time at the zoo. Last week. She suddenly knelt down in front of the deer enclosure. She said something so beautiful, so touching and tender that the little boy came running from afar and hugged them both. They weren’t many words. Plain text from the heart. After that they hardly spoke. Words cannot express what happened that night. That silence and the looks that told her they were there for each other.

Christian now wants to look ahead. matter or not. He can and he wants to because he really felt it. Yeah, he suddenly realizes how important tonight was. For the years that may yet come. For the time together, which can now become more rewarding and intense.

the blocks of the past

Painful memories still block your trust. Beate and Christian have known each other for a long time. They became parents quite late. After several attempts at a fertility clinic, they both decided not to invest in this “project” anymore. Years later, Beate suddenly became pregnant. A marvel!

However, until the pandemic, his company, an artist agency, was unequivocally paramount. Nothing happened for a long time after that, it seemed, and then Beate and her sister! That changed a bit when the little one was born. His relationship with his sister also changed, with whom he simply talked too much about his relationship problems.